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How can an attractive woman get people who objectify her to take her seriously?

Follow up question to: As a young woman, how can I shake the feeling that being good-looking is the primary thing that males will acknowledge and praise my existence for?

In particular, how do you deal when you're trying to talk business to someone and they won't stop staring at your modestly-covered chest?
tynamite's avatar By building good relationships with people. What more can be said?

For anyone who doesn't understand, I will explain.

This reminds me of the question Why is it morally wrong to cheat in a relationship? I had a think about an additional answer for that question a couple of weeks ago, that I could add to the end of my answer, to make 2 answers. It goes like this...

People want to be appreciated for their time. So if you are cheating on your boyfriend/girlfriend for someone else, it's like you never appreciated them, and were only interested in their time. So to cheat on someone, it therefore sends the message that the relation they thought they had, never existed. The more you think about it, the more sense it makes. Even more so, if they invested in you by decorating your house.

That's my 2nd answer. Guess what I wrote for my 1st answer.

Because a relationship is a symbol of ownership. The more you think about it, the more it works.

But a friendship isn't an ownership. It isn't an exclusive thing. Well even though it isn't, my answer about the appreciation for one's time, still stands for the woman who is being objectified.

In a perfect world, people would be given attention and allure for the right things.

Here's how I see it.

Step 1 of the friendship/courtship process for the woman who is gazed at, is a blend of people wanting you know you who are, with the added detrimental stigma of people wanting you as a mantlepiece that they can rotate round so that you always face them. If the woman is objectified, this becomes a problem, because it is taken too far.

Step 2 of the friendship/courtship process for the woman who is objectified, is that people (men/jerks/you know the ones!) will ask questions and say certain things to test your reactions, to find out if you are a "idiot". If you are one, you will be taken advantage of, and the facade one goes through, won't be worthwhile.

Testing the waters isn't something that people do, just to find out if someone likes them. You could also be naive too.

So with all that said, the best thing such a woman can do is to build good relationships with people. If she can do that, then people will know not to take her for an idiot, and that she isn't an airhead.

Not only do you have to know what you want, but you also have to know what doesn't work. Not everyone can do this, as the game isn't transparent as it seems. Some cards in the hand, are held under the table.

(Gather round people, there's going to be an unexpected detour.)
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