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How can I deal with people who crave attention?
Some people I know are so desperate for attention that they lie constantly. How can I deal with these people when I don't know if they're telling the truth or not?
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It's not like the person is inflicting on your life or being mean to you, so what's the problem? I do understand how annoying it is, and it riles me up too when people attention seek all the time.
The way I see it, attention seekers are the saddest people in life. They are a ghost in the midst, wayfaring in moonlight, who sadly never got the approval they should have got early on in life, that us as humans got. It's human nature for us to seek regard from others, it's natural. Everyone does it. So if someone is going to keep attention seeking all the time, then something is definitely wrong with them. It wouldn't seem that way, judging by all the attention they get or how happy they look, but trust me, something is seriously wrong with them.
They are sad inside, screaming for someone to help them. It may seem like other people are giving them what they want (attention), but their plight is going unheard. They're crying out for someone to truly accept them, and help them out of their plight, but sadly no one ever cares, so they scream at their chest and mind.
Everyone has an obstructive behaviour, that impedes on the things that they want to do in life. And I look for those obstructive behaviours in life, for everyone that I see or talk to. How do you think I can answer human behaviour questions so well on Quora? I'm very good at reading people. It's like I know people, before I know them.
I don't know what sort of people you have inflicted upon you, but lying isn't good. I don't like people who deceive people and that is bad in its own right, and there's not really any excuse for that. Those sort of people are bad people.
But anyway, I find that extroverts want to find people who accept the words they say, and that introverts want to find people who accept them as a person. They already have the other type of people on their side (for reasons I won't get into), now they need to fulfill the other half.
Next time you're around attention seekers, pay close attention to the things they say to others, and not the things that they say they want. What they say they want, is only a means of getting what they want. Attention seekers do not typically want what they say they want!
You might learn something. And you might learn that these people aren't as bad as you think they are, and that they should have warranted, what's sadly unwarranted for them.
Update
There was an experiment of which two sets of babies were cared for, but one group of them just had the basic food/sleep/shelter and received no love or interaction from the scientist. The group of babies who never received any love, or more specifically regard, died.
Think about that, the next time you see someone who was foster cared.
They're always looking for something they never got. I heard that one slit their wrist in class, when their boyfriend cheated on them with someone else.