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Is it bad form to say "I'm Asian - you're Asian - let's be friends"?
(PS: I have no preferences as to who I friend - I don't act Asian at all anyways)
societyunderstand
The person will immediately realise you are socially inept, and instantly feel sorry for you. No contempt will be given to you, on your part. However, if you do this with confidence and assertiveness (not mousey), it will come across as a joke, so you can shrug it off, and there will be no awkwardness on your part. That would spin it into a positive.
It's not exactly "bad form" like a faux pas, but it is a bad thing to say, because maybe to you, you would become friends with everyone and anyone, but to most people, that is not the case.
People like me and others, you'll find only want to be friends with certain people. We don't want to be friends with everyone. I've had people want to be my friend, who I've ignored after an initial conversation, because I couldn't find anything to be friends with, ahem, I weren't to keen on them despite their sentiment. (sad!)
So to make friends with someone, it's not just enough to find a common ground, but also to assess whether that person is giving you acceptance or not.
To me and everyone else anyway, making friends with someone or approaching someone is like minesweeper. Flagging the ones to avoid, sensing the numbers 1-3 and going for the ones that you THINK are the safest to go to who you think wouldn't mind you approaching them, or if you could make an impression on them. It's hard, I know. It doesn't get much easier with time.
It's one of those things that is an effort every time, except that it becomes less of a meticulous chore, and more of a case of hit and miss, given enough practise.
But don't forget, not everyone wants to be friends with everyone. There are certain personality traits we like off each other. That's life.
PPS. I don't think it would be possible for you to see the numbers 1-3 on people as if it was Minesweeper, given the sort of person you are, so I'm at a loss now. Just be more specific about the more appropriate questions for such topics for next time.