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What are some effective ways for introverts to start conversations?
Most introverts find it difficult to start conversations and this can cause them to appear aloof or unfriendly to others.
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The best way for an introvert to start a conversation is to nearly start the conversation by walking up to the person casually looking away from them, walk out the room and don't come back until you're ready to talk to them. (I do not do this as I'm not shy anymore.)
There is no best way for an introvert to start a conversation, but there is a best way for a person to start a conversation. I made it up, and it goes like this.
Imagine you're in a Health and Social Care class with your new friend you hardly know, and there's a lesson about raising children. When the class ends you both walk out the class in a position to talk to this person. Instead of going for the typically obvious conversational starter of children which you both know much about, go for something of which you don't know much about.
In the class today, the teacher had problems in getting the projector to work as that person isn't computer literate. Instead of starting a conversation about children, you instead start a conversation about the projector by making a passing comment about it.
The conversation will 100% guaranteed lead somewhere else, and somewhere else, and somewhere else. The person you're talking to will dictate the topic of the conversation naturally, and it won't feel contrived. (what do you work as? where do you live? what are your hobbies?)
At the end of the conversation, you would have learnt a lot about each other, and it would have been really insightful.
In short...
Instead of starting a conversation about something you both know lots about, instead start a conversation about something you both know very little about that you know can lead somewhere else.
Oh I've actually missed something out here that I won't be adding in. Oh, who cares?