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Why don't some women or girls like or find nice guys attractive?

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Because guys are under the false impression that if they are not perverts, that girls will want to sleep with them. How wrong they are.

Update

Look what I found today on my News Feed.

the good boys are worse, they are very sneaky

2nd Update

Really really really nice guys say yes to everything a girl says to them, and do not make their own decisions in life. Girls would rather be with someone they can argue with sometimes, as it proves that the person they're with can make their own decisions. When a guy agrees with everything the girl says, his motives and thoughts are unclear. It's not about being nice, it's about being so damn agreeable to everything.

I realise that on the internet, everything I mean, I have to make obvious, so I'm extending the above paragraph into a longer answer.
I'll put it in a simpler way you can understand. Lets imagine that you have 3 people (guys) you can pursue. For the sake of example, you are a girl.

The first, you've known for a week. He flirts with you one day, then the next day he flirts with another girl who also likes him. You really like him.
The second, you've known for six months. You get along with him one day, then the next day he's puts his male friends over you or has a heated argument with him. You could like him.
The third, you've known for two years. You get along with him every day, and he is always there to listen to you, for every predicament. You could like him if you made the effort to spend more time with him.
The only problem with the third, is that he's so damn agreeable to you. He never says no to you, and he never doesn't find your jokes or words funny or interesting. Your time with him is like the phone call with toy phone you always wanted as a child, or the imaginary friend you always wanted to be real. The problem with the third is that he sugarcoats the good and invalidates all the bad thoughts that we consciously have in our minds. He's a yes man who operates a mind correctional facility in his head. Yes he reassures you and is there for you, but having such an agreeable person to be with you for 5 years is not the future that you are signing up for.

You might get hurt and your heart broken chasing after the first or second man, but it's worth it, if it means that you'll be with someone dynamic for the next 5 years. The third man could be a unpredictable-confident-funny-handsome-kind scientist, but that's not what really matters, considering he's an agreeable yes man.

Girls do like nice guys, they just don't like the agreeable-yes-man ones. And also, can you trust such people in real life? You'll have no idea what they think!

3rd Update

The old saying ‘nice guys finish last’ may not be around for much longer. Findings from Opinium Research reveal it’s nowhere near the truth!

Valentine’s Day research found three fifths of women (59%) admitted they prefer ‘nice guys’ to their ‘bad boy’ counterparts, and perhaps unsurprisingly men across the country continue to get it wrong when it comes to what women want. Almost half of the men surveyed (46%) still believe that women prefer a ‘bad boy’, compared to just 12% who correctly think girls favour the nice guys out there.

While ‘bad boys’, who are seen as ‘rebellious’ and ‘arrogant’, may be publically heralded as pin ups, less than a fifth (18%) actually said that they are more attracted to them than nice guys, who are ‘considerate’ and have ‘good manners’.

The survey also revealed what characteristics Brits look for in a partner - the most sought after attribute for British women is honesty (58%), closely followed by a good sense of humour (52%). Only a fifth of women (22%) cite good looks as important trait in a partner, compared to 38% of men – almost double!

James Endersby, managing director of Opinium Research, commented: “It comes around quicker every year, and as Valentine’s Day fever takes hold it’s impossible to avoid whether you’re happily coupled up or single and ready to mingle! The message is coming loud and clear from British women this year, so for those men trying to attract a lucky someone, bear in mind that playing it cool may not do the trick this year as it seems women are really after a classic Prince Charming!”

Notes to Journalists

Opinium Research carried out an online survey of 2,010 UK adults aged 18+ from 27th to 30th January 2012. Results have been weighted to nationally representative criteria.

Opinium Research carried out an additional online survey of 982 UK males adults aged 18+ from 3rd to 6th February 2012 asking the following: Do you think that women are more attracted to 'bad guys' or 'nice guys'? Results have been weighted to nationally representative criteria.

Contact

If you have a query about Opinium Research in the media, please contact the Opinium media team on (+44) (0)20 7490 8828, or email us at [email protected]

Additional Info

This survey is conducted online by CAWI (computer aided web interviewing), using Opinium’s online research panel of circa 25,000 individuals. This research is run from a representative sample of UK adults (aged 18+ in England, Scotland and Wales). The sample is scientifically defined from pre-collected registration data containing gender, age (18-34, 35-54, and 55+), region (North East, North West, Yorkshire and Humberside, East Midlands, West Midlands, East of England, London, South East, South West, Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland), working status and social grade to match the latest published ONS figures.
Opinium also takes into account differential response rates from the different demographic groups, to ensure the sample is representative