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Is "love withdrawal" a good way to raise a kid? My idea is to love the kid immensely, and show that love to them all the time. When they do something that is going to ruin their future, I suddenly withdraw that love, and give them a piece of my mind.
Let me explain. My idea of raising a kid is to love that kid immensely, and show that love to them all the time. When they do something that is going to ruin their future (even little things), my idea is to suddenly withdraw all that love, and give them a piece of my mind (in the friendliest way possible). My kid should understand that the only way they can regain my love and trust is to not do the stupid thing they did in the first place. (I don't "really" stop loving them for what they did, but make them feel that's the case.)
Again, this is only for young kids, when you can't have a good heart-to-heart conversation with them.
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A related question is What are the long-term effects of controlling children by withdrawing love and breaking their will?
Again, this is only for young kids, when you can't have a good heart-to-heart conversation with them.
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A related question is What are the long-term effects of controlling children by withdrawing love and breaking their will?
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Judging by the comments on the video and article, love withdrawal is wrong, Peaches is right, and Katie is a psychopath and an idiot.
Now for my answer. Would you use love withdrawal on your partner if they were doing stupid things? If your partner never tidied their room, came home on time, was rude to you and wanted to take drugs? Would you withdraw sex, money, time, attention and love from them? No you wouldn't. You would find other alternatives and have a heart to heart with them. So why would you do it for your kids?