Is it considered fair to say "I didn't mean to mislead you" after an emotionally unavailable man knowingly becomes involved in an emotionally invested woman? Is this typical male behavior?

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Courtship, not flirting, is playing a game that you play with someone, without them knowing that the game is being played.

Leading someone on is unfair and wrong, because the game has no finish line. The game is rigged, as there is no chance of a relationship at the end. This is why leading someone on is wrong; because the fair game they thought they were in, was in fact an entirely different game - an unfair one.

It isn't fair for a person who leads someone on, to say "I didn't mean to mislead you", after the game [prematurely] ends; as the game could have had a far worse ending for the participant, and because the expense caused by being misled, and emotionally contorted, isn't worth the memories, when considering the time wasted.

Asking whether this is common for men to do, is like asking whether it's common for women to flirt with men they're not interested in. I've just gave the opposite of the question, and I'm sure you'll answer no, that it's not common.