What is the best way to deal with those people who ask for more than they give?

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The ones who are always asking for favors but when we need them they are rarely willing to help

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tynamite

If someone takes lots from you, and doesn't want to help you in the slightest, then they are a user. You have to assert your self respect, by putting your foot down and saying no, no matter how hard it may be.

I only help people for the same thing once. I rarely ever help people for the same thing twice, unless I can trust that person. I've never been accused of being selfish for it.

In good and healthy relationships, people willingly help each other with various things, with there always being one person helping the other person more than they receive help themselves. The trick is to know that other person is there. If they are there for you when the time calls, that's all that matters. Helping friends isn't a game of counting.

I've never caused any disappointment or sadness, refusing to help others on the same thing twice. In fact they congratulate me for it in their response! The only people who've asked me to do so, are users! I've never been used or betrayed in my life.