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If we share our minds, if we share our first, second, third thoughts freely, how could our world look and think?

Psychologically asked profoundly as we can.
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tynamite
tynamite's avatar I share my thoughts all the time whenever I have them. So far, no retribution.

Update (because the question changed to add 1st 2nd 3rd level thoughts)
If I did that, I wouldn't be able to make friends anymore.

Example
Last month this girl on Quora was inboxing me for hours because she wanted to be my friend and find out what makes me tick. She wants to understand me as a person.

She says something about what happened in her life the other day, and I reply "Isn't life grand?" in a way that sounds off-topic (that's why I love it). And she asks "Are you being sarcastic?" to which I reply "It's only a phrase." She asks "Why did you say that?" and I explained "I have lots of phrases that I use in conversations." I used it again, and another one later on, for effect.

Fast forward two weeks, and she says "People think I'm too much." and I reply "I can imagine that they would. When you're in a room and start talking, people probably all shut up to listen." and she replied "Why did you say that?" and I explained "I was speaking in abstract because I couldn't think of anything to talk about. It happens to me, so I was thinking that it maybe happens to you (not)."

Anyone who knows my answers on Quora who is familiar with my demeanour, would know exactly why I would say "Isn't life grand?" to someone. It's sarcastic, flippant, off topic, and has the tone that I use!

Of course you can know my intentions for saying such things, because you're feeling the intentions, because of the words that I chose. But you wouldn't know the reasoning of why I would say it. What was going through my head before I said those words, that made me say it? What was my thought process.

Let's stack trace my thoughts.


  • The next thing I say will provoke a great reaction, and be sarcastic. (Intention level.)
  • I get to use another phrase - yippie! (Reasoning level.)
  • This person is going to like me more after using one of my phrases. (Affective level.)


Affective level is dangerous, and I would stop there!
Imagine if someone walked up to you in the street, and spoke out loud about having to make the effort to look into your eyes, because they naturally find it hard to do so?

How would you feel if someone told you that something was definately going to work before they did it, and then they did it right in front of your eyes? Wouldn't you want to show you don't care or do the opposite?

Imagine if you was speaking to someone, and they were speaking out loud how insecure they are about their low self esteem and doubting you'll like them or why and might discard them later on, or if they spoke about how bad they are at making conversations or maybe if they told you they were envious of you?

If everyone told everyone that they found it hard keeping eye contact, if they found it that way, the world would be a dangerous place. If I did that, you would wonder if I really wanted to, or if I had a personality disorder that made me not normal.

If everyone told everyone that their charm offence was going to work before they said it, if they were that way, the world would be a dangerous place. If I did that, you would be questioning my ulterior motives and whether I was genuine or not, wondering if you was a stepping stone to be discarded when I find someone new, or if I just use you for the various aspects of my life. I see friends ask their friends why they talk to other friends, not talk to them as much, and what they like in them.

I'm not a talkative person, and I've only approached 2 people in private message who I wanted to talk to, out of all the ones that talk to me. I don't have much words. If I spoke aloud everything that I did in conversation, to keep it flowing and lasting for hours, I wouldn't be able to make friends anymore, as people would know what I'm doing as I'm doing it. When you put all your cards on the table, you don't leave much to be desired. People can't know every card I'll play next. My thoughts would also include how I want people to respond to what I'm saying. I definitely can't say that out loud!

If the person was an extrovert who was fascinated by everyone including you, you would be able to sense it. If they were awkward or forthcoming, you would be able to sense that too. If you want to be able to sense someone's psyche, that will come with time as you read the person if you can, and get to know them.

Why would someone want to broadcast every insecurity and vulnerability they have?

That would make them prime for exploitation and abandonment.

We as humans, find it hard to understand the confusing world around us, enough as it is. Because of this, we put ourselves into categories, so we can understand each other.

If we understood that everyone had fears that we could exploit and nuture, it would leave people feeling marginalised, and it wouldn't allow people to fit in with others and feel like they belong.

Everyone would want, and the selfish users who aren't genuine, would know exactly what to take and ridicule.

So overall, this is a bad idea, mainly because I would be telling people how I want them to react and how I plan to do that, straight after I've said my lines. Also the emotional slush. All insecurities, hopes and dreams, with fears; out in the open. I wouldn't be able to make friends anymore.

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