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Should we talk about ourselves, and tell people who we are?
Everyday messages tell us to talk, and not to talk, about who we are. Individually and psychologically asked profoundly as we can: to talk, or not to talk?
"Should you talk about yourself" is a hard question we are all asked, by ourselves, and by others.
I like allowing personal answers, but encourage answers understanding more than one person too.
"Should you talk about yourself" is a hard question we are all asked, by ourselves, and by others.
I like allowing personal answers, but encourage answers understanding more than one person too.
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I wouldn't choose to reveal to people about myself, but if someone asks me, it's fine for me to answer. I wouldn't go out and tell people about my life, my background, personality, or likes and dislikes. If people wanted to know, they would ask. And if they want to know, they will get to know. I can't say fairer than that.
It seems to be that you think that if there is more understanding among people, that people will get along better, and that the world will be a better place. Well I say is that people will always segregate into their own groups. I understand you to some extent, and you understand me to some extent. According to what I know of you Gabriell Gaston Croft, I have an idea of whether I would want to be your friend in real life or not. Not understanding people such as yourself, as intrinsically as you would like me and other people to, has had no say on my decision of befriending others, and it will continue to have no say, even if I did fully understand you. Me alongside other people, will always have our decisions on which people we like. Some people approach me. Sometimes I approach others. Me understanding others more intrinsically as you suggest, wouldn't really incite me to approach more people to speak to.
When I was a young child, I didn't like it when my family revealed some of the little things I did to other people. I would say "Stop giving away my personality" whenever this happened, and then people soon knew not to do those sorts of things again. They were little insignificant things such as me putting letters, numbers, colours and shapes into a grid I drew on paper, or being rude when my balloon got stuck on the ceiling.
The problem with such talking, is that the person speaking about me, put their own impressions of what they thought of me, onto other people, and never let that person get a chance to know me for themselves, and gain their own opinion of me. That's why I said "Stop giving away my personality", because what they were saying about me, allowed people to judge me, before they got the chance to know me. That was just the only way I could express what I was trying to say, with my limited vocabulary at 3-6 years old.
What you have failed to realise Gabriell Gaston Croft, is that people don't want others to caste a judgement on themselves, before they've had the chance to get to know them. This is why people with mental illness do not talk about their conditions. This is why I won't tell you that I'm a quiet person.
As we are mostly good people, it is up to people to ensure that other people don't have misconstrued opinions of them, so to do so, we don't want to give others a means to label ourselves or to divulge everything about us, to people who hardly know us. Doing such things, will have no benefit once done.
Me explaining to you about me, doesn't exactly help me get along with more people and make friends here, does it?