What does it mean when a girl mentions her boyfriend in conversation a lot to another guy she just met?

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She's not sure whether you're hitting on her or not. She's not sure whether you're flrting with her or not. She's only just met you, and the meaning of your actions are unclear. Let's not forget that sometimes some men will flirt with women they've just met when stuck in a long situation (eg. helping an intern out at work for hours -_-) where there's nothing to talk about. You could be flirting or could not be. If you are, you could only be joking about it. How would she know?

Let's imagine you the man is now a different person than in the previous paragraph...
You also could be exhibiting the sort of body language that's not normal (and not bad), of which you are of a close proximity to the woman, or stare at her too long. (classic!) You could be saying affirmative yet domineering things. Some women have bad experiences with men, or haven't spent enough time around them to understand their intentions for why they do things. If you're sitting or standing close to this woman you've just met chatting to her, and your actions portray intentions less defined than the ones of conversation, that's half the signal. If you're speaking affirmatively (with the intern) by saying "Yeah that's what the timetable meant" combined with domineering things such as "What did you take from the drawers?", the alarm bells will ring.

Rather than make herself look stupid by saying no to you, she can then mention her boyfriend, so if anything arises, you can't accuse her of making the wrong assumption about you, and she can accuse you of going after someone who's taken.