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Why is it okay for women to be into manly stuff, but not for men to be into girly stuff?

For example : if a woman likes video games, cars , sports , weapons almost everyone will think she is hot. But if a man just wore pink, likes romance things then he is called a wimp.
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tynamite
tynamite's avatar The stigma for men being into girly stuff, is because girly stuff is pansy, soppy and emotional. Romance, flowers, or even looking after baby dolls at a young age, would be considered "bad" for a man to do, because it is pansy, soppy and emotional. This is why when you wear pink, you are identifying with pansy, soppy and emotional stuff, just by wearing it. Pink has those different connotations compared to blue which is more gender neutral.

But where does this stigma come from? Why is girly stuff considered pansy, soppy and emotional? I think it's women's fault, as women are not sexually attracted to nice guys or even more prevalent, women are not sexually attracted to men who show their emotions to them or wear their heart on their sleeve. Before feminists get enraged and say "gender is a social construct" or that I'm sexist, hear me out.

Norah Vincent, a lesbian woman who spent 18 months disguised as a man who dated women in disguise and wrote about it, said "My prejudice was that the ideal man is a woman in a man's body. And I learned, no, that's really not. There are a lot of women out there who really want a manly man,
and they want his stoicism,"
[source]

Research has shown that men find empathetic caring responses sexy, and
women, not so much.

Attentiveness and responsiveness can, in most cases, increase a woman’s perceived attractiveness. If there is a similarly surefire strategy for men, it has yet to be discovered.

Afterwards, disclosers assessed “how understood, validated, and cared for” they felt during the interaction. They were then asked to “evaluate the responder’s sexual attractiveness.”

As expected, “men who perceived a new acquaintance as more responsive also perceived her as more feminine and, in turn, more sexually attractive,” the researchers report. However, among women participants, they found no significant association between partner responsiveness and perceived masculinity.

These findings were confirmed and expanded upon in two additional studies, one of which found that, for men but not women, a partner’s responsiveness led to heightened feelings of sexual arousal, which was linked to a “greater desire for a long-term relationship.”
http://www.psmag.com/navigation/health-and-behavior/men-find-caring-understanding-responses-sexy-women-much-86750/

So there you have it. It's not okay for men to be into girly stuff, because women do not find pansy, soppy or emotional men sexually attractive. When men do the same to other men, they are trying to make men more attractive to women, on a persona level. No man would ever tell a gay person to not like female things, as gays don't hold men to female standards.

All stereotypes have a bit of truth to them, no matter how hurtful. Men believe that women prefer jerks over nice guys for this reason.
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