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I accidentally read my girlfriend's SMSs and found some flirty messages that I feel cross the line. Should I raise this with her, and how?

And, no despite how it looks, I'm not exactly a prude nor an over obsessed creepy boyfriend.
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tynamite
tynamite's avatar Here's what I would do
I would not mention the texts because, most likely, they are nothing for you to worry about. Those texts could have been sent under innocent circumstances, with your girlfriend keeping them in her phone and not taking the bait. I'm sure you checked her sent messages and found nothing.

What I would do, is have a quick word about trust, but don't make it into a conversation like you're accusing her of anything. That would be bad. Instead just drop it in slyly, as a passing comment. If you can't find an opportunity to drop the passing comment in, make a guilt triggering question like "I can trust you, can't I?", then see what she says or how she reacts.

I wouldn't let her know that I'm accusing her of not being a girlfriend I can't trust. Instead I would play my own games of continually going through her texts to see if those texts were just a one off. That's what I would do.

I wouldn't accuse someone of something that was most likely nothing to worry about.
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