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Why do people get fed up with someone or something after a certain time?

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tynamite

This question is very broad? Is this question about people or things? Could a more specific question be asked instead?

I agree with the pretext of this question, that people should not get fed up with things. Some people here have classed the constant getting fed up with things as acceptable and good, whereas I disagree. It's the people who are fickle with what they like who are more sad.

Think about it. If you can't be happy with what you've got, and you have to keep changing the things you have, then your happiness is coming from the wrong place. It's the people who can be content with the same things each day, who are the happy people. The key to being happy whilst searching for the thing you don't have, is to also appreciate what you have. Saying that always getting fed up things being a norm and a "fact of life" isn't languishing to me. The only people with those views are sheep who are a product of the capitalist society we live in. Constantly enticed to buy buy buy, and never a thought to better themselves or do anything productive outside their schedule.

Now to answer your question

The reason why people constantly get fed up with things, is because they do not have a sense of identity so they try to get one through superficiality. It's a case of syncrasies vs superficiality.

I will now explain to you what that means.

When people meet each other for the first time, they tend to hide their bad side and only show their good side. A person with a sense of identity will be able to exert their traits in the conversation. For example, I cannot be assertive when talking ever, but I can be outlandish and funny. It's not about confidence and self esteem, as you could be shy, insecure, or with low self esteem; but it is about knowing who you are, what you can do on a personal level, and where you want to be in a macro level.

The problem comes when someone tries to have a secondary identity through what they wear or listen to, or what they create; when they haven't yet got a primary identity of themselves as a person. Such problematic people will constantly get fed up with things.

The reason why people constantly get fed up with other people, is because the person they were previously in contact with didn't really understand them, and now they are at a point where the shallow interaction they had cannot do them justice anymore. It's not that the person has changed, but instead that they need to meet someone who can provide them refuge from the problems cast and the gaps that emerged from their current week.

I'm sure that I don't need to give you an example for this. Ask me for one, and I'll give you one. What I can say is that it's due to people having a carers relationship, and not a proper relationship.

Both people can still get along, but the interest has still declined.